Dear Denise: I want him to do other positions
Sort your love life with honest and practical tips from Denise Smith
Mix it up if you don’t enjoy doggy style. Photo: Getty Images
Dear Denise: My new partner is all about the rear entry position. I fancy him so much but I am not so sure that this is what I want all of the time. Is he not interested in my breasts?
I adore his face and his chest. I don’t feel too hot on my all-fours either. It is not the most flattering for my figure — and why bother with a nice bra? Still, I do want to be with him.
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Denise replies: Many women are not so comfortable with this position because it is called ‘doggy’ style, and she’s not an animal, right? But getting in touch with your wilder side is so good for you. Your new man likes deep penetration but he must be gentle and slow to give you time to be ready and to want him.
The biggest problem with this position is that any clitoral stimulation from him is pretty acrobatic. But if you take a lead role in the movement and leave some space between the two bodies, so that he is not always doing the thrusting, it could be more fun.
It’s totally fair not to be into this position every time you make love. Show your new lover what you want and that you have been thinking of him. Show him how to please you and he will thank you for it. If he’s a good sexual partner, than he will want to see you turned on and he will want you to orgasm.
Dildo never fits right?
Query: I’ve spent too much money on dildos and I still haven’t found the right one. How do I get the right size? I’m not sure it’s for me. Do I have to do all the work?
Answer: A dildo is designed for penetration only, so you have to be aroused before you use it. It might sound silly, but a cucumber is your only man. Cover it with a condom, cut it down to a size that suits and measure it. Buy a good quality dildo and save your vagina.
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